I’m Stacy. I’m passionate about supporting people on their journey of self-discovery and transformation.
I know what it’s like to feel disconnected, with no hope of escaping fear and self-doubt. I spent years focused on others without knowing what I needed myself. Challenges felt frightening and impossible to overcome.
But moving through obstacles connects us to strength and purpose. We all are capable of fundamental change. With compassionate support, we connect to our authentic selves. We clear our habits, conditioning, and limiting beliefs and live the life we desire. We stand up for ourselves and live our chosen life. I know because this is my experience.
My Story
Twenty-five years ago, I had successfully checked off all the boxes. I had a Master’s degree in education, firmly in my high school English teaching career. I was married and had bought a house. Life felt busy. I enjoyed my job and loved my family and friends. But I felt bored and trapped. I had few desires, preferring to give in to other people’s needs. When I did want something, speaking up for myself felt deeply uncomfortable. I constantly felt that I was missing something important about living life.
I decided to start a family, which was long, painful, and heartbreaking.
After six emotional years of infertility treatment and disappointment, I got the call that I was pregnant. I was ecstatic to be a mother and stayed home to raise my son. Three years later, after more treatments, I gave birth to boy/girl twins. I went full-term, but complications, plus a massive dose of antibiotics, damaged my body. Unknown to me, this set the stage for severe health issues years later.
Stuck and Desperate
The next four years had me at my limit. I fell head over heels in love with my children while also struggling to keep up with their care. Lacking daily support and parenting advice, I constantly worried that I was failing them. Anxiety and depression became a constant background, but I never thought to ask for help.
Then my marriage fell apart. As a single mother who hadn’t worked in nine years, I returned to teaching. And then, months into my new teaching job, I realized I no longer had any passion for it.
My entire world felt upended. My skills seemed useless and returning to school for a new degree felt impossible. Also, I began suffering severe symptoms from a struggling thyroid. Finally, I had no idea what I wanted or what might make me happy.
Then I had one of those moments of clarity: I needed help now. And I was willing to do whatever was necessary to find it.
Finding the Support I Needed
I signed up for a women’s spiritual retreat as a start. The fantastic community of women suggested holistic practitioners for physical and emotional recovery. A naturopathic doctor completely changed my energy levels and symptoms when she helped improve my gut health. For my emotional health, Emotional Freedom Technique practitioners, Internal Family Systems therapists, and others helped me uncover and heal my emotional pain. I became a Reiki Master and studied energy medicine. I grew increasingly fascinated with the mind-body connection and how we can access it to heal. Through many practices, I rewrote destructive beliefs about myself that kept me from a fulfilling life.
See the Changes
Until then, I had little passion for anything except for my children. I thought that was just how I was. But the physical and emotional work was changing me. I no longer only saw my role through the needs of others. Crippling self-doubt gave way to self-awareness. I had the energy to consider making fundamental changes in my life. And one day, during a Reiki session, I offered to do some massage and fell utterly in love. Two weeks later, I enrolled in massage school.
Over years of a successful private massage practice, I learned from colleagues practicing Chinese medicine, acupuncture, craniosacral therapy, and Feldenkrais. Interested in trauma and its long-term effects, I read the works of Peter Levine, Stephen Porges, and Bessel Van Der Kolk. They opened my eyes to the world of the mind-body connection. I learned how early experiences can dictate how we think and feel about ourselves, what we’re capable of, and whether we feel we have a voice in our lives.
Finding the Self
As someone stuck for years in fear and unable to stand up for myself, understanding how painful experiences affected my sense of self changed everything. Old conditioning made me believe I was helpless and without agency. And I wanted everyone to know that we are never stuck in behaviors, beliefs or feelings about who we are and what we can do.
As I got in touch with my desires, I studied different holistic modalities. I became a Reiki master, an Emotional Freedom Technique practitioner. I hired life coaches and watched as my life changed even further. Impressed with coaching as a transformative tool, I became a coach specializing in body awareness and mindfulness.
I continue to study and explore how our mind-body connection informs our mental, physical, and emotional health.
My high stress levels, fears, and anxieties were not who I was. I was not “an anxious person” or “an insecure introvert.” We all have access to healing techniques that free us from those stories, allowing us to discover who we are. We can embrace our vital, present, authentic selves. I am grateful that my eyes are now open to so much potential. I invite you to explore your possibilities with me.
Stacy Every is a transformational life coach, Emotional Freedom Technique practitioner and energy worker